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Bohman endorses Andy Buckley
09/12/06 · 10:04 pm :: posted by Andy Buckley
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Selectman Douglas Ann Bohman of Chatham today issued this endorsement of Andy Buckley for the Republican nomination for State Representative for the 4th Barnstable District:
For many years, we’ve been well-served by our State Representative, Shirley Gomes. She 
knows the Lower and Outer Cape like no other, she stays in touch, she is down-to-earth, and she gets things done. Now we are faced with the choice of who will replace her.
As a registered independent – or “Unenrolled” – voter, I have many choices this season. Out of all of them, one candidate stands out as the one I trust to carry on the legacy of Shirley Gomes. I am proud to announce my endorsement of Andy Buckley for State Representative for the Lower and Outer Cape.
When he was elected to the Board of Selectman, Andy gave a voice to those not normally with a seat at the table – the local working families, trying to get by. And he accomplished more in one year than some who have served many times that.
When Andy left the Board to support his wife’s decision to join the military after September 11th, we were sorry to see such a productive and articulate member leave. But we understood his desire to do more for his country, even if it meant giving up everything – his home, his job and his office – to become a simple military spouse overseas. Andy demonstrated that he had the courage of his convictions.
That’s the character of a State Representative we can be proud of. Honest. Fair. Tough. Determined. Someone we can count on to represent our values on Beacon Hill.
Please go to polls for the Republican Primary on September 19th and join me in voting for Andy Buckley for State Representative.
Bohman was Chair during Buckley's tenure on the Chatham Board of Selectman.
For more information on Andy Buckley and his run for the State House, check out www.ElectAndyBuckley.com.
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chatamitenickers [Member] writes:
"Oh Douglas A-a-ann...!"
Are you serious?!!!!
Please tell us that you are not serious about endorsing this helpless "simple military spouse"!
Is this your last parting slap in the face to us?
Please Anne!!
Are you serious?!!!!
Please tell us that you are not serious about endorsing this helpless "simple military spouse"!
Is this your last parting slap in the face to us?
Please Anne!!
SM [Member] writes:
Douglas Ann who?
Is this relevent because Bohman didn't endorse another Selectmen from Chatham running for them same seat?
As an independent you can go either way, R-Buckley or D-Bergstrom.
Is this relevent because Bohman didn't endorse another Selectmen from Chatham running for them same seat?
As an independent you can go either way, R-Buckley or D-Bergstrom.
Amena [Member] writes:
Maybe Douglas Ann didn't endorse Ron Bergstrom because her and Ron's mother aren't as close friends as her and Buckley's mother. This is just a buddy-buddy endorsement that nobody should take serious.
Just gets to show you that it is not about what you know, but who you know.
Just gets to show you that it is not about what you know, but who you know.
msmithcape [Member] writes:
Everyone brace yourself for the missing blog to come and the "Comments are closed for this post" tactic.
Bohman says: "Honest. Fair. Tough. Determined."
Tough and Determined, yes...probably.
Honest and Fair...well, there Bohman is opening a can of worms.
So honest and fair that most of the critical posts have been deleted. Poof! Vanished into the thin blogoshpere!
Values! Do you call censorship a value or just a necessary tool to drag yourself into office?
God help us.
Bohman says: "Honest. Fair. Tough. Determined."
Tough and Determined, yes...probably.
Honest and Fair...well, there Bohman is opening a can of worms.
So honest and fair that most of the critical posts have been deleted. Poof! Vanished into the thin blogoshpere!
Values! Do you call censorship a value or just a necessary tool to drag yourself into office?
God help us.
CCToday [Member] writes:
Removing posts after they have been submitted is against our Cape Blogger rules, and it was a admin error on our part to have allowed it to happen.
It was especially awkward because we had featured that "post" on our front page, and Andy's removing it made us look dim as well.
We hope this does not occur again, but if it does, please call it to our atention at maggie@eCape.com.
The Editors
It was especially awkward because we had featured that "post" on our front page, and Andy's removing it made us look dim as well.
We hope this does not occur again, but if it does, please call it to our atention at maggie@eCape.com.
The Editors
msmithcape [Member] writes:
Yeah...what he said.
WHAT happened to that post....and ALL the rest that were mysteriously sent to the slaughterhouse?
Techinical difficulties right? Did the man behind the curtain hit the wrong switch?
Please just tell us the truth!
WHAT happened to that post....and ALL the rest that were mysteriously sent to the slaughterhouse?
Techinical difficulties right? Did the man behind the curtain hit the wrong switch?
Please just tell us the truth!
msmithcape [Member] writes:
So post them back up.
And, why have all of this Candidates posts been "closed for comment" (except the newest shining endorsement of course)?
Enquiring minds want to know.
And, why have all of this Candidates posts been "closed for comment" (except the newest shining endorsement of course)?
Enquiring minds want to know.
chandramaed [Member] writes:
God bless the blogosphere! Where friends, enemies, and ex-wives with axes to grind can spend their days harping away, when they should be working, taking care of, or "supporting" their children.
Can we all (and I include myself in this) get back to the issues, because frankly, they're a bit more pressing and important in nature.
Can we all (and I include myself in this) get back to the issues, because frankly, they're a bit more pressing and important in nature.
CCToday [Member] writes:
Dear msmith, I'll attempt to explain it again to relieve your paranoia;
1-Each time we set up a new blog there are a number of "permissions" which
we either grant a new blogger or deny.
2-Deleting a "post" or "comment" is supposed to be denied.
3-In setting up Buckley's Blog we inadvertantly failed to deny those two options.
4-We have since changed it and neither he nor the others have permission in those two areas any longer. If you se it happen in any other blogs here, please alert us.
We have over 70 Cape Blogs set up and we still occasionally make a mistake. Thank God. It means we may be human after all ;>)
1-Each time we set up a new blog there are a number of "permissions" which
we either grant a new blogger or deny.
2-Deleting a "post" or "comment" is supposed to be denied.
3-In setting up Buckley's Blog we inadvertantly failed to deny those two options.
4-We have since changed it and neither he nor the others have permission in those two areas any longer. If you se it happen in any other blogs here, please alert us.
We have over 70 Cape Blogs set up and we still occasionally make a mistake. Thank God. It means we may be human after all ;>)
Andy Buckley [Member] writes:
PP, my 9/11 post was simply a draft which was inadvertently posted. As you are well aware as a blogger here yourself, when you press "SAVE" on your posting, the default setting is to publish it, not to save it as a draft.
If you read the posted draft, then you saw it was incomplete. I was alerted to its existence online an hour later, and immediately deleted it. I did not post the completed version because, to be honest, I felt uncomfortable with the personal nature of the article (even though I was happy with what I wrote). As with many of us, this day is hits a raw nerve.
Be assured, the article exists. But the author should always be the first judge as to the nature and depth exposure of whatever he/she produces.
If you read the posted draft, then you saw it was incomplete. I was alerted to its existence online an hour later, and immediately deleted it. I did not post the completed version because, to be honest, I felt uncomfortable with the personal nature of the article (even though I was happy with what I wrote). As with many of us, this day is hits a raw nerve.
Be assured, the article exists. But the author should always be the first judge as to the nature and depth exposure of whatever he/she produces.
Andy Buckley [Member] writes:
... and please pardon all typos above.
msmithcape [Member] writes:
CCToday...
Phew! You just took away all of my paranoia. We will all be able to sleep tonight.
However, according to #3...and I am curious,
"In setting up Buckley's Blog, we inadvertly failed to deny those two options."
So does that mean that this candidate could delete and close posts at will since he has made us of this blog?
Have you done that Candidate Buckley?
Other than your 9/11 one, have you at any time deleted or "closed any posts to comment" since you have had your blog?
That is a straight forward question.
Simple Yes or No.
Or were the deletions and post closings all the work of CCToday?
Just trying to get to the bottom of it. I'm sure you can appreciate that.
Phew! You just took away all of my paranoia. We will all be able to sleep tonight.
However, according to #3...and I am curious,
"In setting up Buckley's Blog, we inadvertly failed to deny those two options."
So does that mean that this candidate could delete and close posts at will since he has made us of this blog?
Have you done that Candidate Buckley?
Other than your 9/11 one, have you at any time deleted or "closed any posts to comment" since you have had your blog?
That is a straight forward question.
Simple Yes or No.
Or were the deletions and post closings all the work of CCToday?
Just trying to get to the bottom of it. I'm sure you can appreciate that.
CCToday [Member] writes:
While you are all getting so excited about nada, perhaps you'll have time to read today endorsement of Mr. Buckley in The Chronicle;
http://www.capecodchronicle.com/editorial/opinion_091406.htm
Congratulations, Andy, and thanks for putting up with our "vigrous" commenters who I hope have noticed all the candidate who are UNWILLING to subject themselves to our readers scrutiny.
They include;
Senator O'Leary
Senator Murray
Senate candidate Ric Barros
Rep candidate Cleon Turner
Rep candidate Sarah Peake
Rep candidate Ron Bergstrom
Rep candidate Will Crocker
Representitive Atsalis
Represntitive Perry
Representitive Turkington
http://www.capecodchronicle.com/editorial/opinion_091406.htm
Congratulations, Andy, and thanks for putting up with our "vigrous" commenters who I hope have noticed all the candidate who are UNWILLING to subject themselves to our readers scrutiny.
They include;
Senator O'Leary
Senator Murray
Senate candidate Ric Barros
Rep candidate Cleon Turner
Rep candidate Sarah Peake
Rep candidate Ron Bergstrom
Rep candidate Will Crocker
Representitive Atsalis
Represntitive Perry
Representitive Turkington
msmithcape [Member] writes:
CCToday,
Andrew Buckley is a political candidate running for State office. I happen to agree with some of his positions.
However, he is running for Public office and public scrutiny is a part of running for public office. What is this blog for? If I am not mistaken, it is a forum for potential constituents to ask questions of and gain insight from, those that will be in positions of power and representation. It isn't a cake baking forum.
Is this CCToday's forum or Candidate Buckley's forum?
Perhaps you should limit yourself to oversight of potential administration errors and leave the political commentary and answers to the candidate.
So I ask again,
Candidate Buckley, other than your 9/11 post, have you at any time deleted or "closed any posts to comment" since you have had your blog?
Andrew Buckley is a political candidate running for State office. I happen to agree with some of his positions.
However, he is running for Public office and public scrutiny is a part of running for public office. What is this blog for? If I am not mistaken, it is a forum for potential constituents to ask questions of and gain insight from, those that will be in positions of power and representation. It isn't a cake baking forum.
Is this CCToday's forum or Candidate Buckley's forum?
Perhaps you should limit yourself to oversight of potential administration errors and leave the political commentary and answers to the candidate.
So I ask again,
Candidate Buckley, other than your 9/11 post, have you at any time deleted or "closed any posts to comment" since you have had your blog?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
I heard my name called. While not directly it certainly was called indirectly. I am uncertain as to why my name needs to get dragged into this already dirty campaign. But since someone can't leave personal stuff personal, I am going to respond appropriately.
I had always felt that issues between Andrew and myself were private, personal. Now, Andrew had shown in the past that he needed to involve the public in the marriage problems of our past. Obviously - now the new girlfriend, isn't that what you are Chandra, needs to make personal issues publicly noticed.
Maybe I should start posting my version. And maybe I should let voters know, who exactely they are voting for? What do you think Chandra, since you seem so convinced I have an ax to grind with Andrew?
I had always felt that issues between Andrew and myself were private, personal. Now, Andrew had shown in the past that he needed to involve the public in the marriage problems of our past. Obviously - now the new girlfriend, isn't that what you are Chandra, needs to make personal issues publicly noticed.
Maybe I should start posting my version. And maybe I should let voters know, who exactely they are voting for? What do you think Chandra, since you seem so convinced I have an ax to grind with Andrew?
woodsman [Member] writes:
Wow! First the signs issue in Eastham and now this. Never a dull moment in local politics!
Monponsett [Member] writes:
Ted Kennedy should blog here. It used to be cool when he left comments.
Monponsett [Member] writes:
Looks like Vivian and I may not have to wrestle at the blog party now... this one looks like a Slobberknocker.... lol
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Andy,
sleepy eyed at the moment;), but what the heck did you do to your ex-wife?
sleepy eyed at the moment;), but what the heck did you do to your ex-wife?
windmill432 [Member] writes:
two side to every story..
capemom [Member] writes:
Buckley got the endorsement because he is a serious, viable, and competant candidate.
But here's what's interesting. We have the current girlfriend making accusations against the ex-wife about her lack of "support", meaning money or child care, or both, perhaps. We have Andrew's website in which practically every picture he's shown with his daughter, perhaps because he wants to play the single dad card or because he has sole custody and has to take his daughter with him everywhere? Not that there's anything wrong with either of these.
He says he left his post as selectman because his wife joined the military after 9/11.
I don't know how old the pics are, but it looks to me like his daughter is less than five years old.
So his wife either joined the military when she had a very young child, or joined the military in a burst of 9-11 patriotism, and then, in a burst of fecundity, has a baby? To help fight the Taliban? Hmmmmm.......
But here's what's interesting. We have the current girlfriend making accusations against the ex-wife about her lack of "support", meaning money or child care, or both, perhaps. We have Andrew's website in which practically every picture he's shown with his daughter, perhaps because he wants to play the single dad card or because he has sole custody and has to take his daughter with him everywhere? Not that there's anything wrong with either of these.
He says he left his post as selectman because his wife joined the military after 9/11.
I don't know how old the pics are, but it looks to me like his daughter is less than five years old.
So his wife either joined the military when she had a very young child, or joined the military in a burst of 9-11 patriotism, and then, in a burst of fecundity, has a baby? To help fight the Taliban? Hmmmmm.......
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Probably money. It's all about money in the end;)
Andy, can you please answer this-
who pays the child support here? You or her?
Andy, can you please answer this-
who pays the child support here? You or her?
windmill432 [Member] writes:
where did Mrs. Ex-buckley go? Hello!!! are you out there? Yooohooo?
What is your side of the story>? Need to know this stuff before the vote;)
Andy, can you please answer my question about who pays child support here? You or you ex-wife, or ex-wife to be?
What is your side of the story>? Need to know this stuff before the vote;)
Andy, can you please answer my question about who pays child support here? You or you ex-wife, or ex-wife to be?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
There are indeed two sides to every story. Yes, Andrew resigned his post as a selectman to join me in Europe once I joined the Army. True, the day Andrew arrived in Germany I got pregnant. On March 29th, 2003, after 27 hours of labor I gave birth to the most beautiful girl ever. Sofie Elisabeth Buckley. As is common for working mothers, and especially in the military, I was only offered 6 weeks maternity leave. Andrew took care of Sofie during the day (except for lunches when I came home to nurse Sofie - yes regardless of work, I came home for 10months every day to nurse my child) while I was at work. Then post partum depression hit. I did some things that I am not proud of. But, I am not ashamed of them either. If anyone cares to know - I'll gladly answer.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
cont'd: So, yes, I had an affair. A one weekend romance. Friday to Sunday. When Andrew found out, he went ballistic. Understandable. I would have too. And I reacted poorly to an already disasterous situation (keep in mind that all this time suffering from Post Partum Depression). I was hospitalized for a week and things were rollercoaster like for a time. Then my Division got extended in Iraq. Everyone was supposed to join them fighting the uprising in Sadr City. Andrew wouldn't let me back in the house, the military had already let me stay in the barracks for longer than is authorized if you have family in housing. I had to make a decision. I decided to send Andrew and Sofie back to the US. Bad decision. Hind sight is always 20/20.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
cont't: Now there was ongoing arguing between Andrew and myself over the course of our separation - over petty, stupid issues. But - I had always paid him support. After he first left until I filed for divorce I had sent him $2,500 a month. That is more than some of you make. Then I sent him $1,788 a month. Because I couldn't afford more than that. I asked for joint custody in our divorce. Because I believe a child needs both Mom and Dad in her live and differences between parents should not have an effect on children. Anyways, Andrew managed to convince the Judge, by hacking into my personal emails (yes hacked into!!!!!!) that I was sick. Funny that a court ordered psychiatrist found that I was perfectly healthy. So, I lost my daughter. Andrew stole my daughter from me.
capemom [Member] writes:
The only reason I brought up the issue of Andy's daughter is because he prominently portrays himself as a single dad and I am curious about his circumstances.
Andy has been so active in local town poltics for years, and has such deep roots in the community, that I am sure he is the best candidate.
In addition, if he has been the primary caregiver for his daughter for any amount of time, I am even more impressed with his ability to get things done.
For some reason, I have more sympathy and admiration for single fathers than single mothers, which is 100% reverse sexism, I know, but there you are. Because they didn't sign up for it, in most cases.
On top of everything else, Andy has his ex and girlfriend duking it out while he has to deal with the everyday pressures of parenting. What a horror show. Women can be a lot of trouble.
If I were a man, I'd never get married. God bless ya, Andy.
Andy has been so active in local town poltics for years, and has such deep roots in the community, that I am sure he is the best candidate.
In addition, if he has been the primary caregiver for his daughter for any amount of time, I am even more impressed with his ability to get things done.
For some reason, I have more sympathy and admiration for single fathers than single mothers, which is 100% reverse sexism, I know, but there you are. Because they didn't sign up for it, in most cases.
On top of everything else, Andy has his ex and girlfriend duking it out while he has to deal with the everyday pressures of parenting. What a horror show. Women can be a lot of trouble.
If I were a man, I'd never get married. God bless ya, Andy.
capemom [Member] writes:
BTW, Andy, your daughter is adorable and looks just like you, don't let anyone tell ya different.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
cont'd: Not only was he awarded full custody, but I was ordered to pay $1,235. As a Corporal in the military, you all can see how much money I make. Go do a search how much an E4 makes. Google it. Do the math. It's much more than I can afford. More than the federal government allows to be taken from me. So I am paying him $874.00 for one child. I don't know if that constitute not paying support.
Now here's a question though. If you think that $874.00 child support is not enough (it is all the DOR can take from my pay) how can you make a contribution to your campaign in the amount of $3.030,00 and the claim in court that you have only $17.00 in your account???
So all the signs you see out there - Child support supposed to go to Sofie paid for them.
Now the battle is not over, I am not going to stop fighting for my child and justice. Sofie deserves to have both parents in her life. So keep in mind the guy you might to vote for - not only stole my child, but also uses child support to pay for his political campaign.
Now here's a question though. If you think that $874.00 child support is not enough (it is all the DOR can take from my pay) how can you make a contribution to your campaign in the amount of $3.030,00 and the claim in court that you have only $17.00 in your account???
So all the signs you see out there - Child support supposed to go to Sofie paid for them.
Now the battle is not over, I am not going to stop fighting for my child and justice. Sofie deserves to have both parents in her life. So keep in mind the guy you might to vote for - not only stole my child, but also uses child support to pay for his political campaign.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
So...to answer the last questions. I am paying child support. Andrew is using Sofie as a "campaign prop" (quoting Niles Draper). Sofie also has a live-in-au-pair who takes care of Sofie.
No, I didn't have a baby to fight the taliban. I had a baby for the same reasons most people have babies. Because I wanted to be a Mom. Andrew and I had both decided we wanted a child. But as I am still in the military your questions should have been answered.
And actually - Sofie looks just like her uncle...
now if there are any other questions anyone would like answered. I have nothing to hide and nothing to lose - I will give you 100% truth and definite answers - just keep in mind - there are two sides to every story.
With that being said, I know what I have given you - I do not know what you have received!
No, I didn't have a baby to fight the taliban. I had a baby for the same reasons most people have babies. Because I wanted to be a Mom. Andrew and I had both decided we wanted a child. But as I am still in the military your questions should have been answered.
And actually - Sofie looks just like her uncle...
now if there are any other questions anyone would like answered. I have nothing to hide and nothing to lose - I will give you 100% truth and definite answers - just keep in mind - there are two sides to every story.
With that being said, I know what I have given you - I do not know what you have received!
capemom [Member] writes:
No, Katja, you did a perfectly fine job of stealing your daughter from yourself by being irresponsible and crazy. What kind of soldier "gets pregnant" while on active duty?
C'mon, you may have fooled your husband, but you can't fool another woman--a grownup woman doesn't just "get pregnant."
You're a passive-aggressive professional victim who uses nice guys like Andy to get attention, sympathy, and money.
You can't have it both ways--you can't whine about "getting pregnant", about "suffering" from post-partum depression, which you apprently thought could be cured by adultery, you can't decide to send your kid back to the US, and then claim that you're a competant parent.
C'mon, you may have fooled your husband, but you can't fool another woman--a grownup woman doesn't just "get pregnant."
You're a passive-aggressive professional victim who uses nice guys like Andy to get attention, sympathy, and money.
You can't have it both ways--you can't whine about "getting pregnant", about "suffering" from post-partum depression, which you apprently thought could be cured by adultery, you can't decide to send your kid back to the US, and then claim that you're a competant parent.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
I don't think I said I just got pregnant. Sofie was a planned baby. And what kind of soldier gets pregnant while on active duty? Well my dear, plenty. It's a job for us. You are implying that no working woman should have children until they are what retired????? C'mon.
Ha, and I am using Andy to get attention, sympathy and money - I work for a living Ms. Capemom. I work very hard, ensuring that folks like you can go vote, and post here.
Suffering from post partum depression is not something I am whining about. It's something I dealt with, nore did my adultery cure it. I said I was not proud of anything I did. Just offered the truth.
But if you think you know everything, come join me going to Iraq in the next 3 months. See how much you'll like mortars hitting you! God bless the USA!
Ha, and I am using Andy to get attention, sympathy and money - I work for a living Ms. Capemom. I work very hard, ensuring that folks like you can go vote, and post here.
Suffering from post partum depression is not something I am whining about. It's something I dealt with, nore did my adultery cure it. I said I was not proud of anything I did. Just offered the truth.
But if you think you know everything, come join me going to Iraq in the next 3 months. See how much you'll like mortars hitting you! God bless the USA!
capemom [Member] writes:
It seems to be a strange way to go about starting a family--joining the army post-9/11, in a time of active military operations in Afghanistan, and then becoming pregnant.
If you want to be a Mom, have a baby.
If you want to be a soldier, join the Army.
I am not saying that Moms don't make good soldiers, not at all. But most Moms in the military are either career officers or had kids already and were in the reserves and then got called up to go to Iraq.
If you want to be a Mom, have a baby.
If you want to be a soldier, join the Army.
I am not saying that Moms don't make good soldiers, not at all. But most Moms in the military are either career officers or had kids already and were in the reserves and then got called up to go to Iraq.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
Oh really - you must know it all. You should run for President! And you might want to do some research as to back up your statement about Moms in the military.
capemom [Member] writes:
I am not implying that working women shouldn't have kids, of course not. I have two kids, and have worked part-to-full time since they were infants.
I respect very much everyone who is serving in the US military anywhere. It's an extremely important job, much more important than what I do.
I also acknowledge that post-partum depression is a difficult and sometimes serious medical condition. I know people who have had it, and not once have I ever heard them use it as an excuse for anything except not socializing or something minor.
I remain skeptical of your motivations. You are winning your ex-husband a lot of sympathy votes.
I am known on CCToday for getting into catfights with passive-agressive, whining women. Check out Crusader.
I respect very much everyone who is serving in the US military anywhere. It's an extremely important job, much more important than what I do.
I also acknowledge that post-partum depression is a difficult and sometimes serious medical condition. I know people who have had it, and not once have I ever heard them use it as an excuse for anything except not socializing or something minor.
I remain skeptical of your motivations. You are winning your ex-husband a lot of sympathy votes.
I am known on CCToday for getting into catfights with passive-agressive, whining women. Check out Crusader.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Wow. Seems like Mrs. Ex-Buckley is being forthright and honest, admitting her mistakes and regrets. what does she have to hide. Looks like nothing.
Who are you to judge Capemom? Do you know it all? Nice vocab, call her crazy and whining..
All you know is what Mrs. Ex-Bucley has said. If it is true, I'd love to be Andy. Sitting on a fat pile of government cash that he gets from his military wife. Do you get to see your baby mrs. ex-buckley? What are the specifics here? How long have you been paying child support? Does andy work?
Who are you to judge Capemom? Do you know it all? Nice vocab, call her crazy and whining..
All you know is what Mrs. Ex-Bucley has said. If it is true, I'd love to be Andy. Sitting on a fat pile of government cash that he gets from his military wife. Do you get to see your baby mrs. ex-buckley? What are the specifics here? How long have you been paying child support? Does andy work?
capemom [Member] writes:
No, I do not know it all, I know next to nothing and would be the most disastrous president in the history of the world.
Since I think Andrew has enough of a horror show on his hands as it is, I am bowing out of this discussion now.
It was a little off-topic, but at least it dealt with the subject of this blog--Andrew Buckley.
Since I think Andrew has enough of a horror show on his hands as it is, I am bowing out of this discussion now.
It was a little off-topic, but at least it dealt with the subject of this blog--Andrew Buckley.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Why are you getting into a "catfight" with mrs. ex-buckley?
Let her speak her piece;)
And leave your judgements in the sink.
Let her speak her piece;)
And leave your judgements in the sink.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
then you are probably the kind of voter mr.buckley is looking for..uninformed and in the dark...
rather than listening you judge.
mrs.ex-buckley can you answer my questions above so that we can at least have a fuller picture of your situation;)
rather than listening you judge.
mrs.ex-buckley can you answer my questions above so that we can at least have a fuller picture of your situation;)
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
Capemom - I don't think I ever used my post partum depression as an excuse, just a contributing factor - if you are unhappy - some folks do bad things. And I did bad things.
As far as me seeing Sofie, yes I was able to spend time with her this time. Who knows what the future holds, it's up to Andrew for now. I have been paying support since we separated in May of 2004. I could probably give an exact amount of what I paid if I sat behind it.
Andrew says he works as Insurance Inspector - however, he claimed not to receive a pay stub.
Anyways I have to run to the airport.
As far as me seeing Sofie, yes I was able to spend time with her this time. Who knows what the future holds, it's up to Andrew for now. I have been paying support since we separated in May of 2004. I could probably give an exact amount of what I paid if I sat behind it.
Andrew says he works as Insurance Inspector - however, he claimed not to receive a pay stub.
Anyways I have to run to the airport.
capemom [Member] writes:
Windmill--I know I sound judgemental. I guess I am just old, cynical, and jaded.
In my life, I have come to realize that almost 100% of the time, when someone opens a conversation with "poor me", they are usually full of kaka. And looking for sympathy.
Sympathy is in short supply these days for me. I've used most of mine for the truly powerless--children orphaned by AIDS, people living in hopeless poverty in third world countries, the list goes on and on.
In my life, I have come to realize that almost 100% of the time, when someone opens a conversation with "poor me", they are usually full of kaka. And looking for sympathy.
Sympathy is in short supply these days for me. I've used most of mine for the truly powerless--children orphaned by AIDS, people living in hopeless poverty in third world countries, the list goes on and on.
John Q. Public [Member] writes:
Not the least of Andy Buckley's attributes is the fact he has not mentioned that his wife was unfaithful and the reason for their divorce or that she is in great arrears in her ordered child support.
This guy is a gentlman and deserves our support.
This guy is a gentlman and deserves our support.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
windmill - if you have more questions...let me know - i'll respond either from the airport - or from germany ;-)
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Voter A,
How do you know that mrs.ex-buckley is in arrears? have you seen any court orders? Do you know the details? If i were mr. buckley I wouldn't want any one to know the details...there is more to this than meets the eye. and we are getting only one side of the story. yes, mrs. ex-buckley made mistakes..we all do. she has admitted them freely...and is open to explaining anything. Seems like honesty to me. She was seemingly called out by the "girlfriend..." told that she should be "supporting her child." And she shouldn't defend herself. I'm sure mr. buckley has his answers;), but it looks like he does not say anything on his own site. why is that? Looks like mrs. ex-buckley is tied into a military contract..so the gravy just runs from her bank account into mr. buckley's. I hope it is used for his daughter and not for political signs. That would be shameful.
How do you know that mrs.ex-buckley is in arrears? have you seen any court orders? Do you know the details? If i were mr. buckley I wouldn't want any one to know the details...there is more to this than meets the eye. and we are getting only one side of the story. yes, mrs. ex-buckley made mistakes..we all do. she has admitted them freely...and is open to explaining anything. Seems like honesty to me. She was seemingly called out by the "girlfriend..." told that she should be "supporting her child." And she shouldn't defend herself. I'm sure mr. buckley has his answers;), but it looks like he does not say anything on his own site. why is that? Looks like mrs. ex-buckley is tied into a military contract..so the gravy just runs from her bank account into mr. buckley's. I hope it is used for his daughter and not for political signs. That would be shameful.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
First she had to pay him
$2,500 per month = $30,000 per year
then
$1,788 per month = $21,456 per year
then
$1,235 per month = $14,820 per year
now
$874 per month = $9,822 per year
Total: $76,104 over 4 years!
I know cape cod is expensive but does it take nearly $80,000.00 to raise a 3 or 4 year old?????!!!!
Nearly $80,000.00. Who is soaking who here?
And he has $17.00 in the bank? That's a good one?
$2,500 per month = $30,000 per year
then
$1,788 per month = $21,456 per year
then
$1,235 per month = $14,820 per year
now
$874 per month = $9,822 per year
Total: $76,104 over 4 years!
I know cape cod is expensive but does it take nearly $80,000.00 to raise a 3 or 4 year old?????!!!!
Nearly $80,000.00. Who is soaking who here?
And he has $17.00 in the bank? That's a good one?
windmill432 [Member] writes:
looks mr. buckley is getting all the support he needs from mrs. ex-buckley.
Thumper [Member] writes:
She's in Asia, and I'm still hiding under my desk. Yup... this one's a Slobberknocker.
capemom [Member] writes:
Mr. Buckley's only fault, and it's a common one among men, is that he's attracted to crazy women. Which is fine as long as there are no children involved.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
Now 80,000.00 is a bit of an overestimate. I do want to be fair and I know for a fact I have not paid that much. I would have to do a calculation on my own to tell you exactly how much it is. But you need to remember we didn't split up until Sofie was one year old.
As far as arrearages go - it's a double edged sword and depends on whose side you are on whether they are arrearages or not. I have a court order stating I need to pay $285.00 a week - that is about 1,235.00 a month. My pay is 1935.70 a month before taxes. Take off about 350 for taxes/fica/ss....leaves $1,600 and then take off 1,235.00. Since Mr. Buckley went to the DOR to get my pay garnished he is getting all the federal government allows the DOR to take from my pay before they would be violating the federal consumer protection act. Now - don't you think the fed. consumer protection act is there for a reason? To leave people some money to live. I am not trying to keep anybody from voting for Andrew. This is a free country and you thankfully can vote for whomever you want to.
As far as arrearages go - it's a double edged sword and depends on whose side you are on whether they are arrearages or not. I have a court order stating I need to pay $285.00 a week - that is about 1,235.00 a month. My pay is 1935.70 a month before taxes. Take off about 350 for taxes/fica/ss....leaves $1,600 and then take off 1,235.00. Since Mr. Buckley went to the DOR to get my pay garnished he is getting all the federal government allows the DOR to take from my pay before they would be violating the federal consumer protection act. Now - don't you think the fed. consumer protection act is there for a reason? To leave people some money to live. I am not trying to keep anybody from voting for Andrew. This is a free country and you thankfully can vote for whomever you want to.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
And yes, Mr. Buckley being attracted to crazy women must be true. The girl he dated before me was crazy too....and now here I am crazy....Crazy enough that the military allows me to carry a weapon, run around with live ammunition. So crazy, that two psychiatrists, independently from each other stated I was perfectly fine and one psychologist, who aside from interviews (which crazy people like me can easily manipulate) did standardized, objective testing...and, unfortunately Cape Mom....I am not crazy. I know you, just like a lot of other people want to believe that - and you are entitled to your opinion. I, however, have it in writing that I am not. Not too many people in this world can say they have it in writing that they are NOT crazy.
And again - I am not looking for sympathy. I get plenty of that from other people. All I can say is that all this is making me a very strong, determined woman. And I'll be damned if I gave up fighting for my child!!!!!
And again - I am not looking for sympathy. I get plenty of that from other people. All I can say is that all this is making me a very strong, determined woman. And I'll be damned if I gave up fighting for my child!!!!!
capemom [Member] writes:
I don't mean medically crazy. I mean regular crazy.
msmithcape [Member] writes:
Candidate Buckley, Undoubtedly you monitor your own blog.
You post when convenient.
Yet you have not answered a simple question:
Other than your 9/11 post, have you at any time Deleted posts or closed your blog to commentary since you have had your blog?
Why has this been so hard to respond to?
Yes is three letters and no is two.
Yes or no?
If you don't want to answer, just say you don't want to answer.
If you get elected, will you not answer questions?
You post when convenient.
Yet you have not answered a simple question:
Other than your 9/11 post, have you at any time Deleted posts or closed your blog to commentary since you have had your blog?
Why has this been so hard to respond to?
Yes is three letters and no is two.
Yes or no?
If you don't want to answer, just say you don't want to answer.
If you get elected, will you not answer questions?
washashore [Member] writes:
I don’t know…3 plus years later and you still have to answer to your ex-wife. Seem like a pretty raw deal to me.
Did anyone watch the debate? Aaron Maloy goes from 0 to crazy in 2.5 seconds and Don Howell resents Chatham for having a successful school system that is run like a charter school, plus hates Billy Joel and Martha Stewart. He’s not even a good American. It seems that Andy Buckley might be too smart to give a non-complicated simple answer. I’m sure this blog was designed to invoke insightful debate…. I am now more stupid for having read all those comments.
Did anyone watch the debate? Aaron Maloy goes from 0 to crazy in 2.5 seconds and Don Howell resents Chatham for having a successful school system that is run like a charter school, plus hates Billy Joel and Martha Stewart. He’s not even a good American. It seems that Andy Buckley might be too smart to give a non-complicated simple answer. I’m sure this blog was designed to invoke insightful debate…. I am now more stupid for having read all those comments.
Don [Member] writes:
"Not even a good American?" The point about Chatham was that the money for school choice comes from some taxpayer somewhere - it's not free. I happen to love Billy Joel, I just don't want us to become a rich person's playground. But "not even a good American?" Let's see, I use my name, I've stood up for family values by actually practicing them, I've sacrificed the better part of a decade and a half on volunteer endeavors, I've served for six years in elective office... Whereas you hide in anonymity. Yeah, I agree, you are stupid.
woodsman [Member] writes:
Let's see: a candidate for office tells a potential voter that he/she is "stupid." Usually it's the other way around...
msmithcape [Member] writes:
Candidate Buckley,
Once again....
Other than your 9/11 post, have you at any time Deleted posts or closed your blog to commentary since you have had your blog?
Once again....
Other than your 9/11 post, have you at any time Deleted posts or closed your blog to commentary since you have had your blog?
washashore [Member] writes:
Except for a couple trusted confidants, I believe that; Batman, Zorro, Superman, and many other “heroes” live in anonymity. It’s the villain that runs around screaming,” My name is Lex Luther.” Unabashed and unchecked ego is not a good quality Mr. Howell! The majority of people I know who volunteer and sacrifice do so humbly. Unfortunately the opportunist in this world (ie.YOU) think that if a respected community leader’s HUSBAND endorses you, the rest of the voters will over look the fact you where a complete failure as a selectman and as the chair for two years. My guess is you’ll probably do better in Orleans and Eastham where people only know you as, the short fat guy that has the courage to stand next to two tall guys. Here in Harwich and Chatham they also know you as the guy who led the town into its worst financial crisis ever.
capemom [Member] writes:
Katja--Welcome to the wonderful world of gender equality, which I of course fully support.
Where women demanded and got the same rights as men--the right to be a soldier and perhaps die in lovely, fun-filled Iraq, the right to fork over the majority of their paychecks to support a kid they don't see too often because the judge has deemed them to be the more inferior caregiver of the two parents.
Next thing you know, men will be clamoring for their right to bleed for five days a month, be mystified by what's under a car hood, squeeze a 7 pound baby down the turnpike and other joys of womanhood.
Where women demanded and got the same rights as men--the right to be a soldier and perhaps die in lovely, fun-filled Iraq, the right to fork over the majority of their paychecks to support a kid they don't see too often because the judge has deemed them to be the more inferior caregiver of the two parents.
Next thing you know, men will be clamoring for their right to bleed for five days a month, be mystified by what's under a car hood, squeeze a 7 pound baby down the turnpike and other joys of womanhood.
Thumper [Member] writes:
In all fairness, most Batman villains use an alter-ego, i.e. The Riddler, The Joker, The Penguin. Even Harvey Dent- who everyone in Gotham City knows is a crook- still goes by the moniker Two Face.
Even Batman uses the secret identity more as a totem. When discovered by Bane (real name, I might add) in the Batcave, he dons the mask anyhow.
"You can't hide your identity from me, Wayne."
"I'm not hiding... I'm becoming."
Even Batman uses the secret identity more as a totem. When discovered by Bane (real name, I might add) in the Batcave, he dons the mask anyhow.
"You can't hide your identity from me, Wayne."
"I'm not hiding... I'm becoming."
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Mrs. Ex-buckley;),
Does Andy let you see your baby?
Does Andy let you see your baby?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
Windmill - do you want a yes/no answer or do you want the whole picture?
The answer is "yes, I was able to see her at this visit to the Cape"
I was also supposed to see have her in Germany for one month during the summer, which did not happen. It did not happen because the court ordered I needed to be treated for BPD and provide Andrew with a letter stating so. Well, as it turned out, I don't have BPD and that is what the Dr. wrote. He also wrote that it would be unethical to treat me for something I do not have.
Andrew's reply to the letter was "isn't Sofie worth it to you to get treatment"...my daughter is certainly worth it to me. Anyone who has children knows that we would do anything for them. The problem is not the not wanting to get help - heck, I really just want to spend time with my child - it's the inability to get help. Because I don't suffer from BPD.
It's like requesting chemotherapy when u don't have cancer, or a pace maker when there is nothing wrong with your heart. Know what I mean?
The answer is "yes, I was able to see her at this visit to the Cape"
I was also supposed to see have her in Germany for one month during the summer, which did not happen. It did not happen because the court ordered I needed to be treated for BPD and provide Andrew with a letter stating so. Well, as it turned out, I don't have BPD and that is what the Dr. wrote. He also wrote that it would be unethical to treat me for something I do not have.
Andrew's reply to the letter was "isn't Sofie worth it to you to get treatment"...my daughter is certainly worth it to me. Anyone who has children knows that we would do anything for them. The problem is not the not wanting to get help - heck, I really just want to spend time with my child - it's the inability to get help. Because I don't suffer from BPD.
It's like requesting chemotherapy when u don't have cancer, or a pace maker when there is nothing wrong with your heart. Know what I mean?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
Oh yes, and there was this one time when he was at my parent's house, where I drove 6 hours in the car, to spend a night in a hotel (he told my parents he was going to leave and never come back if I stayed in their house), had to surrender my passport to him, to spend 3.5 hrs with Sofie - supervised by my Aunt. And then drove back 6 hours to Germany.
Now you tell me if that is rational behavior? Surrender your passport? Dictate to your ex-parents-in-law who house and feed you for free that their own daughter can't come home, or he will leave with Sofie and never come back?
Now you tell me if that is rational behavior? Surrender your passport? Dictate to your ex-parents-in-law who house and feed you for free that their own daughter can't come home, or he will leave with Sofie and never come back?
Don [Member] writes:
Washashore clearly is a shill; and still is hiding. As for my town, glad you brought that up. You're only as good as the team (the town puts) around you. I suppose you could blame the Republicans for what the Democratically controlled legislature has wrought, too. Here's a little math about Harwich: 18 years, 21 Selectmen, 1 Town Administrator. As for Andy's fiscal prowess; 12 months, 1 budget, same good manager before and after. If you really believe that Selectmen set policy and don't run the day to day management (and I do), where do you come off with your comment? For the record, I personally recruited our Town's highly regarded CFO - you should ask him about his choices should you not believe me. I also took a stand about not renewing the previous Administrator's contract (he says it, not me). Moreover, one of the biggest failures on the Board of all time is backing this guy. As for tooting my own horn, well at least I have something that I can talk about. For most of the past 15 years, I have done so in oblivion. By the way, washashore, who are YOU and what have You ever done?
capemom [Member] writes:
KB--Apparently the judge, and your own parents, agree with your ex-husband's handling of the situation.
I see selective medicalization here.
Bipolar disorder, which is a serious and sad mental illness, is overdiagnosed, IMHO, and sometimes assigned to women (in particular) who exhibit impulsive, outrageous behavior.
Having said that, the lack of concensus among doctors about your having BPD does not mean that you're a competant parent.
Crazy is as crazy does. On the one hand, you want to medicalize your condition after your baby was born and say that you had post-partum depression.
On the other hand, you don't want to medicalize your condition of the last couple of years and say you have BPD because it jeopardizes your chances of winning back custody, and therefore not not paying child support.
Whether you or Andy realize it or not, your marriage was in jeopardy before 9/11. The geographical cure (joining the military) didn't work. Having a baby didn't work. The affair you had was a symptom, not a cause, of your breakup.
I see selective medicalization here.
Bipolar disorder, which is a serious and sad mental illness, is overdiagnosed, IMHO, and sometimes assigned to women (in particular) who exhibit impulsive, outrageous behavior.
Having said that, the lack of concensus among doctors about your having BPD does not mean that you're a competant parent.
Crazy is as crazy does. On the one hand, you want to medicalize your condition after your baby was born and say that you had post-partum depression.
On the other hand, you don't want to medicalize your condition of the last couple of years and say you have BPD because it jeopardizes your chances of winning back custody, and therefore not not paying child support.
Whether you or Andy realize it or not, your marriage was in jeopardy before 9/11. The geographical cure (joining the military) didn't work. Having a baby didn't work. The affair you had was a symptom, not a cause, of your breakup.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Capemom...
"Apparently the judge and your own parents agree with your ex-husbands handling of the situation." ???????
Are you a fool Madame? Where do you get your facts? Are you a trained Psychologist or Medical Doctor. You are made of assumptions and that is ALL you seem to throw at Mrs. Ex-buckley.
It is quite a thing to be ACCUSED of something that you don't have. And you throw the word CRAZY at her in nearly every post.
You make me mad at the way you attack this young lady.
Maybe Andy is crazy and we all just don't know it. And maybe he has painted himself to be the perfect Dad. Where did the perfect dad get $3000 to loan to himself and his campaing and then claim to have only $17 in the bank. Is he stealing his own daughters food and using the money for POLITICAL signs? Why don't you ask about that Capemom? Why don't you ask Andy some questions instead of telling Mrs. Ex-Buckley that she is crazy.
Let's ask him were all the money comes from? Will you do that with me CapeMom?
"Apparently the judge and your own parents agree with your ex-husbands handling of the situation." ???????
Are you a fool Madame? Where do you get your facts? Are you a trained Psychologist or Medical Doctor. You are made of assumptions and that is ALL you seem to throw at Mrs. Ex-buckley.
It is quite a thing to be ACCUSED of something that you don't have. And you throw the word CRAZY at her in nearly every post.
You make me mad at the way you attack this young lady.
Maybe Andy is crazy and we all just don't know it. And maybe he has painted himself to be the perfect Dad. Where did the perfect dad get $3000 to loan to himself and his campaing and then claim to have only $17 in the bank. Is he stealing his own daughters food and using the money for POLITICAL signs? Why don't you ask about that Capemom? Why don't you ask Andy some questions instead of telling Mrs. Ex-Buckley that she is crazy.
Let's ask him were all the money comes from? Will you do that with me CapeMom?
windmill432 [Member] writes:
You are right...you are an OLD, JADED, BATTLE AXE, HARPIE, who seems to love to get into "cat fights" as you say. Idiotic.
We are supposed to be discussing issues here and you keep telling and integral part of Andy's life and one of the issues that she is crazy!!!!!
If you cannot say anything nice, or at least post question....don't say anything at all.
Mrs. Ex-Buckley;), you are providing very important information and you seem to be truthful. I wonder if Andy will respond......?
So if I get this right, Andy has prevented you from seeing your baby because he says that you have Bi-Polar Disorder? Did the Judge say this too?
We are supposed to be discussing issues here and you keep telling and integral part of Andy's life and one of the issues that she is crazy!!!!!
If you cannot say anything nice, or at least post question....don't say anything at all.
Mrs. Ex-Buckley;), you are providing very important information and you seem to be truthful. I wonder if Andy will respond......?
So if I get this right, Andy has prevented you from seeing your baby because he says that you have Bi-Polar Disorder? Did the Judge say this too?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
1. My own parents agree with "Andrew's handling of the situation" - I can tell you why my parents keep and have kept out of this. For Sofie's sake. The love her more than anything else. And the potential threat of not seeing her by upsetting Andrew is too much for them. So they just try to keep the peace. And I expect for you to never ever put words in my parents mouth again!
2. Bipolar - no clue where that came from as I don't remember mentioning it or any doctor
3. There is no lack of consensus in doctors - there actually is consensus amongst them - Mrs. Ex-Buckley (i kinda like that lol) does not suffer from it. Mrs. Buckley is perfectly healthy and capable of parenting. Would you like to see the court ordered psych report???
4. Anybody please clarify this for me - did I ever, at any point say, that I have BPD and therefore am not paying child support. Because if I did say something to that extent, I might start to believe I am crazy. Apples and oranges
5. I am glad you know about the Buckley marriage - you must have lived with us.
2. Bipolar - no clue where that came from as I don't remember mentioning it or any doctor
3. There is no lack of consensus in doctors - there actually is consensus amongst them - Mrs. Ex-Buckley (i kinda like that lol) does not suffer from it. Mrs. Buckley is perfectly healthy and capable of parenting. Would you like to see the court ordered psych report???
4. Anybody please clarify this for me - did I ever, at any point say, that I have BPD and therefore am not paying child support. Because if I did say something to that extent, I might start to believe I am crazy. Apples and oranges
5. I am glad you know about the Buckley marriage - you must have lived with us.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Mrs. Ex-Buckley;),
You said the Court ordered you to be treated for Bi-Polor Disorder......
On what basis?
You said the Court ordered you to be treated for Bi-Polor Disorder......
On what basis?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
CapeMom - I suggest you keep your emotions in check when replying and throwing accusations out there. Emotional responses are never a good thing. They make you look very unprofessional and too involved. So, before you post some "crazy" statements you would like to be facts again. Breath, think, write, breath again, re-read your post - and ensure it is backed up by facts.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Mrs. Ex-Buckley;),
You did mention "BPD." What do you mean by that? Or better yet...what do those intials stand for? Just to be clear?
You did mention "BPD." What do you mean by that? Or better yet...what do those intials stand for? Just to be clear?
washashore [Member] writes:
Thumper… that might have been the most insightful comment these blogs have ever seen. Well played!
As for you Don… I choose to stay anonyms. I’m not on trial. Until the ballots close on Tuesday, you are. Quite frankly, I’m having way to much fun watching you make as ass out of yourself, commenting on Mr. Buckley’s blog over a tongue and check remark about Billy Joel. Why do I picture you in a fight where your opponent has you affectively stiff armed, but you just won’t stop flailing about and swinging wildly. I guess what I’m saying is, “thank you.” I have been entertained.
P.S. Putting an XXL t-shirt over an outfit is not slimming, but yellow is your color. (Do you see where I’m going with that?)
As for you Don… I choose to stay anonyms. I’m not on trial. Until the ballots close on Tuesday, you are. Quite frankly, I’m having way to much fun watching you make as ass out of yourself, commenting on Mr. Buckley’s blog over a tongue and check remark about Billy Joel. Why do I picture you in a fight where your opponent has you affectively stiff armed, but you just won’t stop flailing about and swinging wildly. I guess what I’m saying is, “thank you.” I have been entertained.
P.S. Putting an XXL t-shirt over an outfit is not slimming, but yellow is your color. (Do you see where I’m going with that?)
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder. Sorry if that caused confusion.
After Andy and I split up and I came out of the hospital I saw a psychologist (a quack in Andrew's words) who very quickly labeled me with BPD. Maybe I did have BPD at the time. Who knows. Fact two is that at the time of the first hearing, Andrew suggested I undergo a psychiatric evaluation. Court ordered me. I saw Dr. Whaley in Chatham. Forensic Psychiatrist too. I had nothing to hide. I still don't. Like I said, I made mistakes, we all do. I pay for them every day by not having my child. So Dr. Whaley determined that I was fine. Capable of parenting. Not suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Some of the emails used in court against me, were emails Andrew hacked into, that were between me and the first psychologist. Based upon that. Judge figured that this psychologist was not ethical and pretty much useless and I should under no circumstances be treated by him.
After Andy and I split up and I came out of the hospital I saw a psychologist (a quack in Andrew's words) who very quickly labeled me with BPD. Maybe I did have BPD at the time. Who knows. Fact two is that at the time of the first hearing, Andrew suggested I undergo a psychiatric evaluation. Court ordered me. I saw Dr. Whaley in Chatham. Forensic Psychiatrist too. I had nothing to hide. I still don't. Like I said, I made mistakes, we all do. I pay for them every day by not having my child. So Dr. Whaley determined that I was fine. Capable of parenting. Not suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
Some of the emails used in court against me, were emails Andrew hacked into, that were between me and the first psychologist. Based upon that. Judge figured that this psychologist was not ethical and pretty much useless and I should under no circumstances be treated by him.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
The Judge still, however, convinced that the first doctor was bad for me and unethical - made a diagnosis which was right. Even though - Dr. Whaley in his years of experience as a forensic psychiatrist said differently.
When Judge ordered me to go get treatment I was like - okay, it's for Sofie, and who knows, maybe Whaley was wrong. Since then I have seen one other psychiatrist - Dr. Morton and one more psychologist - and they all agree with Whaley. Nothing wrong with Ms. Buckley.....Hmmmm.....makes u think doesn't it?
If a Doctor is such a quack that you ban him from ever treating that patient again - why would you use his diagnosis???????
This is mega confusing, isn't it?
When Judge ordered me to go get treatment I was like - okay, it's for Sofie, and who knows, maybe Whaley was wrong. Since then I have seen one other psychiatrist - Dr. Morton and one more psychologist - and they all agree with Whaley. Nothing wrong with Ms. Buckley.....Hmmmm.....makes u think doesn't it?
If a Doctor is such a quack that you ban him from ever treating that patient again - why would you use his diagnosis???????
This is mega confusing, isn't it?
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Mrs. Ex-Buckley;),
OK on BPD.
So, what your saying is that:
Andy
1. HACKED into your email account,
2. Stole your emails (illegal by the way)
3. Used them against you in court
4. Accused you of having Borderline Personality Disorder
5. Convinced the judge that you had Borderline Personality Dis-Order.
6. Obtained custody of your child on this basis.
7. And is now making you pay all this money in child support?
By the way way, does he work and does he own a home?
OK on BPD.
So, what your saying is that:
Andy
1. HACKED into your email account,
2. Stole your emails (illegal by the way)
3. Used them against you in court
4. Accused you of having Borderline Personality Disorder
5. Convinced the judge that you had Borderline Personality Dis-Order.
6. Obtained custody of your child on this basis.
7. And is now making you pay all this money in child support?
By the way way, does he work and does he own a home?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
1. Yes
2. Yes (they were my emails - just like taking somebody else's mail)
3. Yes
4. Agreed with the "quaks" diagnosis because it neatly fit
5. yes
6. yes
7. yes
I am not sure I want to go into detail about what he works and whether he owns a home. I really don't feel comfortable answering this as it is past my time - meaning I wouldn't know for sure. And I think it would be unfair for me to say something I don't have the facts for.
I can tell you what was claimed in the Divorce Trial - as this, as a matter of fact, is public record.
2. Yes (they were my emails - just like taking somebody else's mail)
3. Yes
4. Agreed with the "quaks" diagnosis because it neatly fit
5. yes
6. yes
7. yes
I am not sure I want to go into detail about what he works and whether he owns a home. I really don't feel comfortable answering this as it is past my time - meaning I wouldn't know for sure. And I think it would be unfair for me to say something I don't have the facts for.
I can tell you what was claimed in the Divorce Trial - as this, as a matter of fact, is public record.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Mrs. Ex-Buckley;),
That's alright if there are some things you feel uncomfortable with. I really appreciate all that you have been forth coming with. It is too bad that Andy hasn't said anything here....
The work is important....he says "part time clam digger" and "insurance inspector".
If he claims to have $17 in bank...I am wondering where he got the $3,000.
If he is a really hard worker then I can understand...
or if he owns his own home he could borrow against it.
So that is why I asked about work and if he owned his own home.
That's alright if there are some things you feel uncomfortable with. I really appreciate all that you have been forth coming with. It is too bad that Andy hasn't said anything here....
The work is important....he says "part time clam digger" and "insurance inspector".
If he claims to have $17 in bank...I am wondering where he got the $3,000.
If he is a really hard worker then I can understand...
or if he owns his own home he could borrow against it.
So that is why I asked about work and if he owned his own home.
capemom [Member] writes:
Sorry I assumed BPD meant bipolar disorder. Borderline personality disorder is a more fuzzy diagnosis.
KB, I can certainly understand your frustration. But as you say, there are at least two sides to every story.
I remain skeptical because I find it hard to believe that a man would go to all the trouble to have sole custody, 100% responsibility, of a young child, with all the diapers, earaches, etc. for any reason other than he was extremely concerned for the child's well-being in
the care of its mother.
I know of two other single fathers in similar situations and both are exhausted and bewildered. They didn't expect to be raising their kids solo but one mother abandoned the kids and the other mother crashed her car, drunk, with the kids in it. Neither were injured, thank goodness, although one was found under the front seat one hour after the crash.
Then there are the dads who stay in an unhappy marriage because they love their kids and want to see them every day, but also don't want to be the sole caregiver.
KB, I can certainly understand your frustration. But as you say, there are at least two sides to every story.
I remain skeptical because I find it hard to believe that a man would go to all the trouble to have sole custody, 100% responsibility, of a young child, with all the diapers, earaches, etc. for any reason other than he was extremely concerned for the child's well-being in
the care of its mother.
I know of two other single fathers in similar situations and both are exhausted and bewildered. They didn't expect to be raising their kids solo but one mother abandoned the kids and the other mother crashed her car, drunk, with the kids in it. Neither were injured, thank goodness, although one was found under the front seat one hour after the crash.
Then there are the dads who stay in an unhappy marriage because they love their kids and want to see them every day, but also don't want to be the sole caregiver.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
CapeMom - Andrew was very clear from the beginning that there was no sharing of custody. It's okay to put the child's best interest at heart. By all means, and I know he is a wonderful, loving and caring Dad. I know that Sofie means the world to him, but he fails to see that Sofie needs her mother in her life - more than just two weeks every six months. Trust me - I have seen the changes in Sofie's behavior towards me when she first sees me and when I leave. She cried for the first time yesterday when I left again. Why? Because she knows she wont see me again for a while. She begged me to stay - to not go back to Germany - to come with me. Imagine you need to tell your child lies all the time as to why she can't go to Germany with you. It would never cross my mind to actually tell her "Sofie you can't come to Germany with me because your father doesn't want you too" Instead I have to say "I have work to do" making my work sound more important than my child. And I do believe - that two grown up should put their child first and come up w a 50-50 solution.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
windmill - i don't know how much clamming Andrew has done in the past two years. And - what is a part-time clam digger. One who goes out two days out of the week? Once a month? Once a summer? One who holds a commercial license? I really don't know how often he's gone clamming. But perhaps, he can answer that.
He does insurance inspections though - just don't know how much.
As far as owning his own house - the answer is no.
He does insurance inspections though - just don't know how much.
As far as owning his own house - the answer is no.
windmill432 [Member] writes:
Usually someone who wants, but does not need, 100% control of something....control issues.
Bobcat87 [Member] writes:
CapeMom -- you claim some disbelief that a man would choose single fatherhood unless given no other alternative (abandonment or death of spouse). I agree with you. However, I think of the few who do choose, some of them do it to hurt and control their ex. I know a man who has also fought in court, also by accusing his ex of mental issues, for sole custody of his daughter. While he loves his child and is a great dad, it is also very clear to me and the rest of our family that this also about control, and about hurting and discrediting his ex. He and his new wife, through their comments and criticisms, have made this very clear. In fact, the similarities between the two cases is eerie.
IMO, KB (unlike AB)has demonstrated honesty in a public forum, intelligence in her postings, and an honest effort at financial support (c'mon AB get a job and help) and a willingness to put her child's and her parent's feelings ahead of her own.
As a mom yourself, I guess I'm surprised at the harshness of your criticisms. KB needs a good lawyer, now.
IMO, KB (unlike AB)has demonstrated honesty in a public forum, intelligence in her postings, and an honest effort at financial support (c'mon AB get a job and help) and a willingness to put her child's and her parent's feelings ahead of her own.
As a mom yourself, I guess I'm surprised at the harshness of your criticisms. KB needs a good lawyer, now.
capemom [Member] writes:
I'm sure KB is torn apart over not having custody and I can sympathize. I hope that some day they can work out a custody arrangement that makes sense, when she's out of the service.
I am not a modern Opraholic who automatically takes the woman's side in a conflict. Women can be just as selfish, irresponsible, hurtful, manipulative, etc. as men.
Unfortunately, a lot of too-nice men do not know this. Lucky for us, I guess.
How come in divorce cases, the husband always thinks the ex-wife is crazy and the wife always thinks the ex-husband is a jerk? Probably because it's true.
Granted, having a jerk for a husband can drive a woman crazy ;) But having a crazy wife can turn a husband into a jerk.
I am not a modern Opraholic who automatically takes the woman's side in a conflict. Women can be just as selfish, irresponsible, hurtful, manipulative, etc. as men.
Unfortunately, a lot of too-nice men do not know this. Lucky for us, I guess.
How come in divorce cases, the husband always thinks the ex-wife is crazy and the wife always thinks the ex-husband is a jerk? Probably because it's true.
Granted, having a jerk for a husband can drive a woman crazy ;) But having a crazy wife can turn a husband into a jerk.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
CapeMom - what does all this have to do with me being in the service? Me being in the military should have nothing to do with custody. Plenty of single women and dual military couples are successful parents.
I am going to explain this again - being in the military, for most of us is a job - nothing more, nothing less. Except it comes with more responsibility. It comes with the responisibilty of sometimes doing things that most Americans would be too scared to do. It comes with the responsibility of doing things you might not agree with. The responsibility of not just walking out of a job because you disagree with your boss. But guess what, it can also be very rewarding. By seeing things that we see, knowing that some of the things we do - make a difference to some people - the simple fact that I can go to sleep at night, knowing that I am giving something to my country.
As either a single parent or dual military you are required to have a working family care plan. In case of deployment you need to have a caregiver - guess who my number one choice for thatwould be? Right, Andrew!
I am going to explain this again - being in the military, for most of us is a job - nothing more, nothing less. Except it comes with more responsibility. It comes with the responisibilty of sometimes doing things that most Americans would be too scared to do. It comes with the responsibility of doing things you might not agree with. The responsibility of not just walking out of a job because you disagree with your boss. But guess what, it can also be very rewarding. By seeing things that we see, knowing that some of the things we do - make a difference to some people - the simple fact that I can go to sleep at night, knowing that I am giving something to my country.
As either a single parent or dual military you are required to have a working family care plan. In case of deployment you need to have a caregiver - guess who my number one choice for thatwould be? Right, Andrew!
Chris [Member] writes:
I don't know the truth about what's happening here. What I do know is that what appears to be a fantastic tool for a small-time politician, a way to appear cutting edge and reach-outy, has come back to bite him in the gluteus maximus. I'd like to know what the candidate intends to do about having his name dragged through the mire like this. So far, he's stayed quiet, right?
Chris [Member] writes:
It's just excruciating.
caperscodders [Member] writes:
What is excruciating Chris?
News-gal [Member] writes:
Chris is distressed because the new media is breaking the old media's monoploy on information. I never heard of Andy before he blogged, and now I can't wait to vote for him on Tuesday.
Buckley has proven himself a gentleman during his ex-wife's attempts to drag her personal issues with him into the campaign,and he reminds me of Shirley Gomes' great dignity under fire during Sarah Peahe's ungentlewomanly attacks on her two years ago. Peake's unseemly campaigning drove a great lady into early retrement.
Buckley has proven himself a gentleman during his ex-wife's attempts to drag her personal issues with him into the campaign,and he reminds me of Shirley Gomes' great dignity under fire during Sarah Peahe's ungentlewomanly attacks on her two years ago. Peake's unseemly campaigning drove a great lady into early retrement.
caperscodders [Member] writes:
Journo,
Proving oneself a gentlemen under fire is one thing. Anyone can do that...especially aspiring politicians. And this one is superb at it. Expert. Among the best.
Ask some questions. See if they are responded to. Buckley is crafty. Do you really think that he will address anything here? The answer is no. Why?
The blog is too hot. He knows he will be politically decapitated if responds to anything. Why? He knows what he has done in the past, and there is no defense. Sarah Peake will eat him alive.
Polished. Yes. Dig deeper and you will find that the veneer is as thin as urine on a rock.
What about that illegal apartment when you were a mighty Chatham Selectman Andy?
What's the job history?
Ask even one serious question Journo, you'll be brushed aside and you will have squandered your vote.
Proving oneself a gentlemen under fire is one thing. Anyone can do that...especially aspiring politicians. And this one is superb at it. Expert. Among the best.
Ask some questions. See if they are responded to. Buckley is crafty. Do you really think that he will address anything here? The answer is no. Why?
The blog is too hot. He knows he will be politically decapitated if responds to anything. Why? He knows what he has done in the past, and there is no defense. Sarah Peake will eat him alive.
Polished. Yes. Dig deeper and you will find that the veneer is as thin as urine on a rock.
What about that illegal apartment when you were a mighty Chatham Selectman Andy?
What's the job history?
Ask even one serious question Journo, you'll be brushed aside and you will have squandered your vote.
caperscodders [Member] writes:
It cannot be emphasized enough just how much we typically underestimate the depravity of the pathological narcissist who operates behind a facade of respectability and altruism.
We cannot forget that they have a desperate fear of exposure, that someone might catch a long enough glimpse at the rot that lies within and raise the awareness of others, thus threatening the power structure that took years of careful planning to erect.
That is why the pathological narcissist is a long term plotter, like the brilliant chess player who plans ten or more moves ahead.
It is almost impossible for anyone to uncover the complex and multi-layered schemes of such a person unless one is entirely aware of the depths of his depravity and the level of his intelligence.
Knowing the one without the other leaves one ever open to being perpetually deceived.
We cannot forget that they have a desperate fear of exposure, that someone might catch a long enough glimpse at the rot that lies within and raise the awareness of others, thus threatening the power structure that took years of careful planning to erect.
That is why the pathological narcissist is a long term plotter, like the brilliant chess player who plans ten or more moves ahead.
It is almost impossible for anyone to uncover the complex and multi-layered schemes of such a person unless one is entirely aware of the depths of his depravity and the level of his intelligence.
Knowing the one without the other leaves one ever open to being perpetually deceived.
caperscodders [Member] writes:
The majority in his immediate environment will see his "too good" side only. Should anyone no longer be needed, or should one happen to become a threat to his facade, such a one is likely to get a taste of the narcissist's vindictive nature, even one who has been a close "friend" to him for a number of years -- a narcissist's loyalty is paper thin, for he is incapable of genuinely intimate friendships. But only the targeted victim will see his vindictive nature, or a small few. He is careful to keep this side of himself from others, for it is an inconsistency that might expose him. So adept is he at this narrowly focused persecution, in fact, that any attempt by the victim to tell another will in all probability make him (the victim) appear as if he is losing his mind. Very few of us expect to discover such a depth of depravity in well dressed professional adults.
caperscodders [Member] writes:
The narcissist takes advantage of every opportunity to favor a person who is down and in need -- as long as the prospects that he will be of use later on are good.
Such opportunities supply the narcissist in a number of ways. Primarily, they ensure loyalty for the day that will inevitably arrive, the day when his personal edifice crumbles and he finally falls into the pit he has dug for his enemies over the years.
Such opportunities supply the narcissist in a number of ways. Primarily, they ensure loyalty for the day that will inevitably arrive, the day when his personal edifice crumbles and he finally falls into the pit he has dug for his enemies over the years.
msmithcape [Member] writes:
Candidate Buckley,
We are rolling up on election day you still have not answered an elementary level question:
Other than your 9/11 post,
have you DELETED or CLOSED YOUR BLOG to comments or posts since you have had it?
I am beginning to think that you have.
We are rolling up on election day you still have not answered an elementary level question:
Other than your 9/11 post,
have you DELETED or CLOSED YOUR BLOG to comments or posts since you have had it?
I am beginning to think that you have.
caperscodders [Member] writes:
How does that old proverb go...
You can fool some of the people some of the time...you can fool some of the people all of the time...
But you can't fool all of the people... all of the time.
Let's see....Sunday after noon. Tick, Tock, Tick, Tock....sand is rushing through the hour glass and the golden gates of Tuesday are within sight.
Let's take political stock.
Many reasonable Chris Matthews Hardball questions asked....
None answered.
By now, this candidate is wishing that he never posted this blog...allowing us to air hour concerns and ask our questions of a would be "Public Servant."
Silence. Staying out of the political gutter. Shrewd.
The questions will probably be much tougher on Beacon Hill...
Can you provide us with an endorsement from an employer?
The whole "working on Beacon Hill" thing is good...
....but wasn't that nearly 20 years ago? Or is that off a year or two?
You can fool some of the people some of the time...you can fool some of the people all of the time...
But you can't fool all of the people... all of the time.
Let's see....Sunday after noon. Tick, Tock, Tick, Tock....sand is rushing through the hour glass and the golden gates of Tuesday are within sight.
Let's take political stock.
Many reasonable Chris Matthews Hardball questions asked....
None answered.
By now, this candidate is wishing that he never posted this blog...allowing us to air hour concerns and ask our questions of a would be "Public Servant."
Silence. Staying out of the political gutter. Shrewd.
The questions will probably be much tougher on Beacon Hill...
Can you provide us with an endorsement from an employer?
The whole "working on Beacon Hill" thing is good...
....but wasn't that nearly 20 years ago? Or is that off a year or two?
Sacreblu [Member] writes:
I hear that a judge this week held Buckley's ex-wife in contempt of court for failing to pay the court-ordered child support, AND sentenced her to 10 days in jail if she fails to pay within X days.
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
How cowardly and pathetic to ANONYMOUSLY post the judge's ruling in a public forum the day after Mr. Buckley lost the election. Where, I don't really think anybody cares anymore about this issue, other than sore losers.
CCToday [Member] writes:
MS Buckley - you criticize the commenter but fail to answer the charge.
Is it true or not?
Is it true or not?
Katja L. Buckley [Member] writes:
CCToday - since I am stationed in Germany - and mail takes a few days (normally 5) to arrive here I have not gotten a copy of the order. So I have no idea whether it is true or not. I am sure though, that it is correct. If the anonymous poster has a copy of the order and wants to forward it via email to me I can respond to it. As it is right now - I cannot comment on the validity of the report, as I have not seen or heard. This is the first time I have heard about an order having been made by the Judge. But - thanks for the heads up!
caperscodders [Member] writes:
Looks like this blog is a thing of the past...old news.
Buckley lost.
CCtoday, you do a good job of staying in the political mix. Are you an unbiased vehicle for blog posts or are you an entity that posts and asks questions of ex-wives?
If indeed Katja Buckley has been hooked up to the blood machine by some imbecile judge, do you really think defeated candidate Buckley is going to be buying milk for his daughter and using the funds for her welfare...?
More like paying for his political debts.
Katja and her daughter are a gravy train for this political has been...nothing more.
Laughable....what man sits and collects money from a woman corporal U.S. soldier on active duty protecting our rights?
One of low moral fiber. A bloodsucker who does not have a job and doesn't like to work.
Good luck Katja. You will eventually prevail...because the truth always prevails.
Buckley lost.
CCtoday, you do a good job of staying in the political mix. Are you an unbiased vehicle for blog posts or are you an entity that posts and asks questions of ex-wives?
If indeed Katja Buckley has been hooked up to the blood machine by some imbecile judge, do you really think defeated candidate Buckley is going to be buying milk for his daughter and using the funds for her welfare...?
More like paying for his political debts.
Katja and her daughter are a gravy train for this political has been...nothing more.
Laughable....what man sits and collects money from a woman corporal U.S. soldier on active duty protecting our rights?
One of low moral fiber. A bloodsucker who does not have a job and doesn't like to work.
Good luck Katja. You will eventually prevail...because the truth always prevails.
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