CapeCodToday Blog Chowder

I wasn't talking about money, safety, politics, or even gay issues, I was talking about a personal (and I believe universal) experience of loneliness and the yearning to love and be loved and to feel a part of something bigger.

Please, I appreciate all relevant comments, but I really prefer if you take your flaming and slamming somewhere else.

Let's try and make this blog a place where we can all get real in 2008, I need your help. If you feel a knee-jerk reaction to what I say, please don't start clacking away at the keys without thinking first. I am requesting that you reserve your comments to be about your own feelings ad experience. This doesn't mean that you say the same things as before, but with the preface of "I feel that..."!!, tell me about your loneliness, your fears, your challenges, your joys, your aha!s, your revelations and realizations. I really want to hear them.

It's an exercise in personal growth. Let's do it together. Thanks!

Jessica

wow, I thought I was writing about me, but I seemed to have let loose torrent of ill will!

Forgive me if I am new to blogging in Cape Cod, when I had my organizing blog, the comments I got were (for the most part) on topic. That enriched the discussion and we were able to go deep.

I love lively debate, don't need everyone to agree with me or even like what I say, but can we please keep our more intense emotional projections in check and stay with the topic at hand?

wow, it's interesting that the readers here immediately assumed the worst. No, my daughter is not an alcoholic, although I don't feel my advice would be much different if she were, she is just going through what many teens go through at her age. She's actually got a better head on her shoulders than I did at 16, I am proud of her, as I mentioned in the letter to her.
I guess we all have our own way of parenting, and mine is based on trust and belief that she will find her own way. I don't think anyone would accuse me of babying her!

And although some of you may disagree with the concept of being a "fellow traveller", that has worked well for me in my relationship with my daughter over the years. She was born an old soul with a wisdom well beyond her years that was apparent since she could talk. Now, at 16, she is a powerful young woman with a mind of her own, often self-assured, but sometimes awed by how big the world actually is and how much she doesn't know after all.

I wrote her that letter to let her know that she was not alone. I wish someone would write me one of those from time to time!

Think about it.

~jessica

Blaming and asking someone to take responsibility for the choices they have made so they can make different choices are two different things. The journey to getting organized has nothig at all to do with blame, it is one of the most empowering experiences that a person can go through. It is all about moving from blaming yourself to taking responsibility. No one ever said life is easy.

Get a good fire extinguisher and take a deep breath. No need for fire, this process is all about flow...like water.

thanks, Texas Caper, I do have a fantastic team that travels all over the country for organizing jobs. In fact, we recently spent a week on the other coast and managed to fill an entire construction dumpster, in addition to over 50 bags to charity. That house was SINGING!!

Thanks, Capemom, for weighing in. Actually, I wish getting organized was as simple as just tossing or filing! Alas, it is way more complicated than that for many people. That is why my business has been growing steadily since 1997!

Some of us are "born organized" and the process of decision-making is simple. It is difficult for us to imagine the big deal of it. But for those who suffer from the feeling of being completely overwhelmed and not knowing where to start, even a simple decision becomes crippling and the clutter piles up, contributing even more to the feeling of overwhelm and shame.

Clutter always begins in your mind, and then it ends up on the floor. Solon, there are ways to make it happen, just let me know if you want some help, it would be fun to blog your office clear!

warmly,

Jessica