Interventions are not only for the alcohol or drug user. As family members, we have many problems ourselves. Not facing them, realizing them, and correcting them can pass the stress over to the addicted.
Intervention is a final step hoping to get the user to admit themselves into a recovery program or a rehabilitation center. If they are under eighteen, this is in your control. Over that age, they are in control.
Alcoholic and Addicts are great manipulators. We are great for carrying the load of feeling guilty when we make demands. We do need to treat this problem as a group–and listen to each other.
After losing a husband and daughter from substance abuse, I could list many mistakes I chose, which I will list another time. Doing “nothing” and thinking this problem will ride itself out, is foolish. It’s not going to go away without dealing with it. And if you don’t, your loved one could be walking head-on into a freight train.
Some users want help while others think they can handle the drinking or drugs. Like my daughter, Lori, she told her sister that she couldn’t see her life without a drink. That’s after three rehab stays to dry out and get counseling.
I don’t take the blame for her death. We all have choices. But, I will take the blame for not listening, and staying by her side more with conversations which would have shown I loved her. Words are good, but the action is better.
What I would give to go back and handle the problems when I saw them; some, I didn’t. It’s too late to get her or Richie back. I’m reaching out to family members saying, “Don’t give up on them, show your love, listen, put an arm around them, go to counseling together, if underage and they are killing their organs, admit them without guilt. Better they hate you than you burying them.
And last, pray together. Yes, pray. Go to your place of worship.